When we talk of a building, we are talking about the foundation. The strength of a building depends on the strength [of its foundation].
A wise engineer will do a survey first before building. There is something called mental bondage in marriage which is when the wife of the husband couldn’t some things in marriage.
Some of us are only interested in the wedding gown, the wedding party.
Character, integrity, a good prayer life, emotional maturity, strength to trust your spouse, commitment to the relationship.
When you use the wrong materials to build the marriage, such as six-packs, a car, nice shoes, height, it will not last.
You need to know your worth, your identity in Christ. You are special, you are not a cheap commodity, God Himself owns you.
Except the Lord build the relationship, the builder builds in vain.
You must develop yourself.
Prayer matters a lot. When you pray, it helps you to know the end from the beginning.
Most relationships are about physical attraction instead of character, feelings instead of commitment. Feelings cannot stand the test of time
The father in law of lust is the devil;the father in law of love is God.
At this age, some are still asking if they can marry someone from another religion.
Questions to ask a guy who asked your hand in marriage:
If a man comes to approach for marriage: ask him to Give you the date of the wedding."
"Let me take you to my pastor."
"Are you ready to see my parents?"
No sex until marriage.
Marriage is a lifetime journey; you must make up your mind. If you must go into marriage, you must be very sure, it is not built by chance, but by choice. Marriage can make you go to heaven or hell; you must be committed to it.
Prov 14:1. In marriage, there will be storms and disagreements.
In marriage, find something both of you can do together.
The woman, the day you get married, you feel comfortable because you feel like you have gotten what you wanted.
A man loves what he sees.
A woman loves what she hears.
Everything you were doing when you were courting should continue.
What can make the building last:
* Build the relationship with God
* Have a constant prayer life together
* Study the Word together, Friendship is the foundation of a great marriage.
* Learn the language of love. Be kind, don't take revenge.
* Give yourself time to communicate.
* Practice forgiveness: marriage is spiritual, and you must manifest spiritually; you must learn how to forgive and let go.
Grow spiritually, serve God together, make it happen together.
You must live a godly heritage. Don't carry your marriage to social media but take it to God.
Don't allow spiritual dryness, infidelity, or lack of communication to take your marriage away from you.